As I sit back and reflect on our lives over the last few months, and all the adventures we’ve gotten into, it suddenly hit me (like a wrecking ball) that I don’t have babies anymore. And honestly, that hurts my momma heart. Like, a whole lot. Our kids seem to be growing at rapid speed. Our oldest is nearly as tall as I am and her maturity level is off the charts. Our tiny love has surpassed all the “baby milestones” and looks much more like a little girl than a toddler. Right now we have two kids playing soccer and one kid playing volleyball….and one mom coaching volleyball (which really just means that I can’t skip anything. Don’t even think about judging me, y’all know exactly what I’m talking about.) We live at ballfields, community centers and dance studios. Our weekends come and go and we barely see our home because someone always has something going on. Life seems to move in fast forward. Recently I’ve been really looking at my children and trying to soak it all in. Some mornings it’s like they wake up and i can tell they grew over night. It’s beautiful and heartbreaking all at the same time.
We have one child going in to middle school this fall while another child will register for Pre-K. I feel like I just had them. Yes, both of them. Where did the time go? Not only do i realize how much they’re growing, but i also realize that I’m getting older as well. Where’s the young, dumb 25 year old with the infant?!? How have i been a mother for over a decade? How am I turning 35 this summer?!? Am i really done having babies?! Is that portion of my life really over?! While it sounds like I’m having a mid-life crisis over here, not to worry, I’m just processing all the random emotions that us mommas have to work through. We dream our whole lives about the families that we’re going to have then once we’re actually in that situation, it all happens so fast that we can’t really fully enjoy it.
I wish i had all the answers and could tell you how to freeze time, but unfortunately, i don’t have those kinds of magical powers. I do know that I’m realizing how important it is to unplug and be present; not just sometimes but all the time. To listen to every crazy, long-winded story; to get in the floor and crawl around like a puppy dog and to play ball in the yard like you have no chores that need completed. These are all things that we, as parents, would normally put off because we “don’t have time.” But honestly, the older I get, the more I realize that the chores can wait but my children can’t! They’re only little for so long.
Each day I’m forced to let go just a little more. To let them walk a little farther away from me in the store, to let them sit at their own restaurant table with their friends, and to let them choose their own outfits and hairstyles (even when I most definitely disagree with their styling choices!!) They’re only mine for a little while and I’m realizing that more each day. This part is probably the most heartbreaking of all. Who will I be when they’re grown and gone?! We bring these tiny little bundles of joy into the world and vow to protect them from all evils. We nurture them and hold them close, but letting go will definitely be the biggest hurdle we have to climb.
As I pave my way into becoming ‘middle aged’ and begin to tread the waters of being the momma to a Middle Schooler, I am reminded that each day is a blessing. And even if I don’t have babies anymore, I know that they need me just as much now as they always have. They just need me in different ways. I may be taking the backseat for a while, but i’ll always be their biggest fan. The truth is, I’m as lost as they are, but we’ll figure it out together….one laugh and cry at a time.