We live in a world that constantly reminds us that we’re not good enough. We’re not tall enough, thin enough, tan enough, happy enough, healthy enough….the list goes on and on. It’s exhausting, honestly. We are hit with a constant flow of information, via the internet, that tells us exactly how we should look, act and think. Our senses are on overdrive trying to keep up with the latest workouts, trends and technology. All we want to do is better ourselves, but what ends up happening is that we don’t love the skin we’re in. We’re always searching for happiness and chasing contentment. We always think “if just this one things happens, THEN I’ll be happy.” Or “if I find this kind of man, THEN I’ll be happy.” The truth is, you don’t find happiness, you make it. If you can’t find peace where you are, then you never will. I’m as guilty of this as anyone else. While I agree that it’s always important to move forward, grow and better yourself, it’s most important to stop and smell the roses and LIVE. To enjoy the present and love ourselves and those around us. While truly loving ourselves on the inside is a little bit harder to achieve, here are five easy tips that will boost your outer self confidence. When you look good, you feel good. Outer self confidence will start to boost your inner self love!
1. Go-To Jeans
There is literally nothing more important than having a favorite, go-to pair of good fitting jeans. A cute pair of jeans can really boost any woman’s confidence. Find a pair of jeans that can be dressed up or down. While I’m normally chasing a good deal, jeans are one thing that I don’t skimp on – I’ll pay top dollar for a pair of good quality jeans. My favorite jeans are American Eagle High Rise Jeggings.
2. Good Skin Care Routine
I am SO guilty on this one. Luckily, I didn’t have skin problems during the teen years. While that is a huge blessing, it’s a curse in it’s own way. Because I never had to take care of my skin, I didn’t. Last year, at 33, I finally got on board with a nightly skincare routine and I can definitely see the difference. I keep my routine simple, but I still feel like it’s important. Nothing makes a person more self conscious than to have a giant zit on their face that everyone is staring at (at least that’s how it feels!) All skin types are different, but here’s what works for me (bonus: you can get this at the drug store for cheap!)
These Neutrogena Makeup Remover Wipes are literally the bomb. They get everything off while still being gentle on the skin. I even use them on my kids delicate skin after wearing dance competition makeup.
After thoroughly cleaning my face, I moisturize with Olay Firming Night Cream. This stuff will literally make your face as soft as butter – and it smells good, too!
Even though I keep my lip color very “nude” most of the time, I make sure to incorporate a bold, fun lip color on date nights. It’s also fun to wear a bold lip with minimal makeup – to switch things up a bit! Here’s one of my favorite looks:
4. Pearly Whites!
This one ranks right up there with good skin care. A healthy oral routine is very important to me. No one feels very confident if their smile isn’t on point. I’ve had teeth problems my whole life (lots of cavities – *eye roll*, ugh.) As an adult, I try to take really good care of my teeth. I brush two-to-three times daily and use this Listerine Whitening Mouth Rinse. I’m not even kidding, I can totally tell a difference when I’m not using it. A warm, happy smile goes a long way – share yours with others!
5. Head Swag!
I can not stress this one enough! As women, we are constantly doing our hair. If you’re anything like me, you probably dread doing your hair – it’s SUCH a process. You might even plan your hair washing days around your social calendar (not that I would know anything about that!) Here’s a tip that will help you out majorly. Find several different styles of hats that you like. Create a collection. I have hats for most all occasions. If you’re in a hurry, skip the hair wash. Just throw your hair up in a messy side bun and throw on a cute hat. You’ll look trendy and your husband will be happy that he didn’t have to sit around and wait on you!
While I enjoy slathering paints all over my face and jacking my hair to Jesus, it’s not because someone else made me feel like I need to do that. It’s because I like it and that’s what makes me feel confident! It’s not even because of my husband. In fact, he would much prefer me in workout clothes, a ball cap and bare faced. But I’ve come to realize what’s most important is making myself feel confident and beautiful. That feeling is going to be different for every single person. Your job is to figure out what makes you feel beautiful!
Whether you’re spending your Valentine’s Day with your lover, your Galentine or you’re flying solo, make sure that you remember to love yourself first!
Hugs & Hearts,