The Weekly Downward Spiral – Mom Edition

Whether you are a working mom, stay-at-home mom, or somewhere in-between, you are probably like us, and feel like your ability to get everyone out the door, fed, dressed, and happy, becomes a slow downward spiral throughout the week!

With the help of my artistic hubs, here is a look how every mom has felt throughout the week, at one time or another:

 

MONDAY

We’re feeling pretty good! We packed snacks and lunch for the kids the night before and the backpacks are laid out, with all of the necessities. All outfits are ironed and hair is fixed. We’re on time and everyone is happy. Our outfit is on point, we have our coffee in hand and we’re ready to take on the week!

 

TUESDAY

Welp, we hit that snooze button an extra time which has left us scrambling to find one of the kid’s science homework, soccer gear for practice after school and matching outfits. It was a little hairy there for a minute, but we got it together. We know that Dad is picking up/making dinner tonight, so we can breathe a sigh of relief.

 

WEDNESDAY

So, catching up on Game of Thrones or Fixer Upper last night wasn’t the best idea. We are rushing around to feed and clothe the small humans in our homes; while trying to make sure we look presentable for that client meeting/PTA/play date. Of course, on top of everything else, there are several spilled cereal, leaky bottle and knotted hair incidents. Everyone seems grouchy but after a rousing car-karoke rendition of “Let It Go”, everyone is back on track. Thank goodness for that frozen Rocco’s lasagna in the freezer (a bag of salad makes that a well-balanced meal right?)!

 

THURSDAY

O.M.G. is it only Thursday?! This is a ponytail/bun hair day FOR SURE. Between the kids eating breakfast in the car and putting makeup on in the rear view, this day is off with a bang. The screaming and crying in the backseat is just about enough to make you “pull over”, but you keep it together and profusely apologize to the teachers for the the tardies. By the end of the day, you are pretty well spent. This calls for take-out, baths, and then we’re ready to fall out.

 

FRIDAY

Am I sleep-walking?! Are these screaming banshees my kids? Did I wear this outfit this week? Does my hair look THAT bad? As we are dragging our kids to the car, we are on auto-pilot. We hope the kids got to the right classrooms, with the right backpacks/lunch boxes. We remember, at the last minute, to turn in the after-care forms and then race to work. At some point throughout the day, we start to perk up – IT’S FRIDAY!!! Excitement turns into adrenaline, as we decide where we are going to eat tonight, who is coming to the tailgate tomorrow, what family fun can we get into.

 

Life is coming at us fast and furious, and mommas we feel you! We’ve all been there and will be there again. We hope you had a great long-weekend!!

 

Tell us your funniest or most memorable “downward spiral” moments! We love hearing from you. Also, be sure to subscribe, to get the latest from Glitter Jungle.

 

XOXO,

Lauren

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Momma Got Her Groove Back

Parenting is mandatory, uncompensated employment that can bring you extreme highs and severely frustrating lows.  Every day we wake up hoping for the best while preparing ourselves for the worst.  As we mentally check off the laundry list of chores, errands and obligations that each day brings, we constantly find ourselves making sacrifices to simply get.things.done.  In true “momager” fashion, guess what goes on the chopping block first?!  ANYTHING that pertains to Mom.  We constantly red-shirt our own needs to make sure everyone else is cared for.  This instinct is as basic and primal as the urge to feed and protect our baby cubs.

By always putting our own needs on the back burner, we eventually end up feeling neglected, unappreciated and run down.  We let our hair color appointments go weeks past due until we’re literally hiding our roots with eyeliner and dry shampoo.  (You all do that too, RIGHT?!  Or is that just me?)  Months go by and we can’t even remember the last time we painted our nails.  Sometimes we’re still wearing a hint of last summer’s color on our toes in January.  Ponytails become the norm and makeup becomes a luxury we rarely indulge in.

After the birth of my second daughter, I went into survival mode.  Two children is no joke.  I can still remember the total panic I felt when my husband’s paternity leave came to an end and I knew I was going to be left alone with these two tiny, demanding, loud, needy but insanely sweet humans.  I can remember the postpartum  emotions and how everything made me cry.  I can remember the fear of knowing that I was responsible for keeping them alive!  Who trusted me with this kind of responsibility anyways?!

Those first few weeks were a real struggle.  A struggle trying to help baby adjust to the world and a struggle trying to help big sister adjust to the new screaming, pooping machine that we so kindly referred to as “the baby.” (For the love of everything holy, don’t make this mistake.  Call the baby by his/her proper name.)  It took us a while to realize just.how.much this upset our oldest daughter.   Everyone who had always treated her like a princess and put her on a pedestal was now suddenly stopping by our house to see “the baby.”  Big sister was getting very little attention while “the baby” was constantly oohh’d and aahh’d over.   To be honest, this took a toll on our oldest.  The good news is, we soon found our groove and things started to settle down; but those first few weeks were rough.

The further we got into this parenting multiple children thing, and the more sleep I missed out on, I slowly started to take less care of myself.  I was doing the bare minimum to get by.  For a while I chalked it up to “it is what it is.”  But then I realized that my happiness was just as important as anyone else’s and that I need to make myself a priority.  I also realized that I’m a much better wife and mother when I’m fulfilled on the inside.

I’m normally not a New Year’s Resolutions kind of person.  I usually laugh at resolutions because, let’s face it, those things never last.  But this year, I decided to get on board and make one of my own.  I vowed to spend more time on myself!  More workouts, more healthy living, more girl’s nights, more fun and only positive energy.  I’m happy to report that it’s April and my resolution is still going strong!  Most importantly,  I’m much happier than I was before.  I’ve learned that it is crucial to take care of myself.  It wasn’t my husband or my kid’s fault that I was neglecting myself, it was my fault.  It was that mom guilt that rages inside of us.  But I’ve learned that I’m a much more productive and patient mother when I’m feeling accomplished on the inside.  Take time for yourself.  It’s not selfish, its imperative.  Find time to pamper yourself.  Get a mani/pedi.  Go to the salon.  Join a gym.  Spend time with your girlfriends.  Get a spray tan.  Plan a kid-free vacation.  Splurge and buy something you wouldn’t normally buy for yourself.  Whatever it is that makes you happy, do it; because you deserve it.

XOXO
Jill

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Find Your Tribe, Love Them Fiercely

 

Welcome to the Jungle! We hope that this blog provides you with a place to escape reality. A place to laugh and cry. And, most importantly, a place to relate. A place where you can say, “these are my people.”

Several friends have asked me why I’m doing this. Why put yourself out there? Aren’t you nervous? Well, the answer is, I’m doing this because I want to be your safe haven. I want to be a beacon of love, laughter and positive energy. My sole purpose is to be an encourager and a validator. I want to be the person that says “Good Job, Momma! You’re doing awesome. That’s, right. YOU!”

Every day we face new obstacles. Some days are easier than others. Some days I feel like I’ve got all my ducks in a row and some days I feel like I have squirrels at a rave. There are times that I’m crazy enough to think *this is easy.* Then life slaps me right in the face and I realize that nothing about being a 30-something wife and mother is easy. Every day presents new challenges. But I’m here to remind you that you’re doing awesome. It’s ok if your kids ate cereal for dinner three days in a row. It’s ok that you grabbed that shirt out of the dirty laundry and febreezed it. It’s ok if you only half-listened to the ramblings of your delirious toddler at bedtime. And it’s ok if you selfishly chose a little gym time over family time today. No matter what, you’re doing ok.

Over the years, more times than I’d like to admit, I’ve found myself looking at other women and constantly measuring myself up to them. The desire to do this becomes even stronger when you become a wife and mother. Constantly wondering how ‘she’ does it all, yet you’re so tired by 8 p.m. that you literally collapse in the bed, once again, and decide that the pile of laundry can wait just one.more.day.

How does ‘she’ find time to work a full time job, exercise daily, be the PTO President, volunteer for non-profits, and be an adorable trophy wife all at the same time? In your mind, it just doesn’t seem fair. The grass always seems greener. Then you beat yourself up, repeatedly. But I’m here to share a little secret with you. ‘She’ looks at you with the same admiration. ‘She’ sees your strengths and focuses on her own weaknesses. ‘She’ isn’t perfect and neither are you. And that’s OK! Perfection is only in magazines and movies. Be real. Just keep doing you. Because that’s exactly what this world needs.

My biggest piece of advice for you (not that you ASKED for it) is to surround yourself with women who build you up and never tear you down. Real queens fix each other’s crowns. Be the energy that you want to attract. Your vibe attracts your tribe. And I have to tell you, I have the best ‘tribe’ this side of the Mississippi. I don’t know how I would survive without my girlfriends and our constant rant sessions. Every day I’m thankful for them and the role they play in my life. Find your tribe and support them fiercely. If you don’t have a tribe, we hope you will join ours here at Glitter Jungle. We hope that you hang around and enjoy this ride with us. Because, trust me, it’s a Glitter Jungle ‘round here, y’all.

XOXO
Jill

P.S. – For all of our male followers, I realize this post was literally dripping with estrogen but, stay tuned. We promise to keep you entertained, too! And, who knows, we might just teach you a thing or two about the ladies in your life.

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